Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Special People?

I found and interesting 'bash-able' article. It's about a person who went to this camp where they'll bring out handicaped children and participants are supposed to go meet them and hug and kiss and maybe even molest these children. They do these so the participants may foster love toward people who are unfortunate. The author broke down in tears when she hears that one crippled kid dreamed of being a football player.

Seriously. Is it a praise to manifest our emotion as such? Is it a show of empathy? Bullshit. 'Special' kids shouldn't be treated any different than any other 'normal' kids. I find it insulting if we show extra concern towards kids with special needs.

Picture this. Abu, who is normal ambulating person, is talking to Jimmy, a 6-year-old cripple who gets around using a wheelchair.

Abu: Little Jimmy, you... you.. you want to eat?? You know, eat. E.A.T. Eat. Eat. Nyummm nyummm nyummm (puts hand in mouth). Are you hungggrrryyyy? Mmmmmmm (rubs belly). Are you? Are you? (Shakes the kid vigorously)

Jimmy: What's wrong with you, man?

I was telling a story to Vijay one day. It was about a psychiatric patient who did something stupid in the ward; she was singing in the ward to anyone who walks in front of her. I was the only one who find it funny, and he didn't. What the hell was wrong with him? Then he said that it wasn't nice for anyone to laugh at the patient because it wasn't her fault she did something stupid. She was at a handicap. I asked him, would he then laugh if someone normal did something stupid. He would. I asked him again, "What difference does it make then?"

By not laughing, we are making a statement that they are different and of another kind. By crying to a girl with kernicterus when she tells you that she wants to become a doctor when she grows up (if she can talk that is), you are building a wall around her. The next time you see this happen in a Jamuan Aidilfitri Bersama Kanak-kanak Istimewa, picture a speech bubble on top of the person who's crying that says "Oh, I'm sorry little girl, but you're retarded. It's not your fault that you are but there's no way you can be a doctor. Because doctors need to be clever, and chances are, you won't even make it to school. Oh, this is so painful. Why must this happen!!!! Boohooo!!"



Anonymous Vijay Kumar Arrnaselam said...

Joe... IM BACK!... lepak la.... hahaha..

Good point made... i guess i dont see the humour in laughing at the psychiatric patient coz I had a grand uncle, who suffered from dementia, and no one saw the humour in him asking for soap, not to bath, but to eat. It was his final meal, btw. That devastating blow, was truly a hilarious sequence, but why did everyone (including my dad, who he financed to study when he had no money) cry on that fateless night?

Seeing real humour in events, sometimes, requires detachment. Detachment, is impossible, if one is paradoxically attached to the event through history or previous experiences. In other words, if my dog had an accident ( touchwood ) and is left with 3 legs, I would never laugh at another limping 3 legged dog, which otherwise would be a killer set in a Steve Martin movie.
The point is, laughing is reserved for humour ( from a definitive point of view of course, lols )

"The secret source of humour itself is not joy, but sorrow. There is no humour in heaven." - Mark Twain

Would I laugh if someone normal does something stupid? Not all the time macha... not all the time :)

Good post man! keep it up !

07 July, 2006  
Blogger jeghi said...

helo abang...weh..aku xtau pn ko ada blogspot...amacam seremban dude?ade awek cun x..annas ckp bnyk je nurse lawa2...kem salam kat sorang dua ke...

26 July, 2006  

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